We’ve all been there—that day when something at work makes us so miserable we fire off a feisty e-mail, only to regret the decision as soon as we hit “send.” Next time, take Blair’s advice: If you feel like you might respond emotionally to something, sleep on it, then revisit the situation the next day.
If you do decide to go to your boss about something that has you riled up, do it in person or over the phone, not via e-mail or text (neither of which allows you to control—or even know—the conditions in which a person reads your message, or how it comes across). “But before you do have that conversation,” says Blair, “make sure that what’s making you miserable isn’t self-induced. Use a friend as a sounding board about your problem before approaching a higher-up.”
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