8 Easy Ways to Build Your Backbone
Whether you're prepping for an interview or a first date, use these expert tips to pump up your self-confidence for the moments that count.
On a First Date
Pump up your body.
“The best and easiest trick I tell guys before they go out is to work out,” says Bela Gandhi, founder of Smart Dating Academy. Hitting the gym not only releases tension but also endorphins and dopamine, the feel-good hormones. A little biceps pump won’t hurt your chances, either.
Pump up your ego.
Tracey Steinberg, a New York–based dating coach, recommends coming up with reasons why you’re a catch. “Your friends tell you that you’re really knowledgeable,” she says, “or you’re really funny, or you’re a great listener.” Remember, she wouldn’t have said yes to the date if she weren’t interested.
Pimp out your wardrobe.
Clothes are critical to confidence, too. Have a go-to outfit that you feel great in. And remember, if you’re not sure about it, don’t wear it on a date, because it will do more harm than good. Gandhi’s pick? “A great sport coat, a crisp shirt underneath it, a straight pair of dark jeans, a good belt, a nice pair of shoes, and a watch.” Cover your bases and you’ll feel ready to steal a few more.