Can you be friends with your trainer and still see results? Sure, but only if you draw some clear boundaries to stick to during your workouts. “Training is mental as well as physical,” says Holland. “Your trainer should have rules, because working out and talking at the same time takes away from your effort—and results.” If your trainer doesn’t take control, try your best to limit conversation until your hour is up, or even better, agree to hang outside the gym, suggests Holland. “You can get in a good workout and still have a friendly relationship.” If you haven’t reached your goals, however, it may be a sign to cut back on socializing—and focus more on getting your money’s worth.