There was once a time when you and your Psych 101 buddy could go from hitting the books to hitting the sheets without having to define “where this is going.” But if you’re older, somewhat wiser, and still not ready for commitment, what’s a guy to do? “Post-college you may still have female friends who really want to get laid but have a hard time finding a guy they can trust with whom to have that relationship,” says Natasha Burton, author of the forthcoming 101 Quizzes for Couples. So, if she’s got what you need, but she says she’s just a friend, there may be hope for you yet.

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Tip No.1: Choose Wisely

You may already have an idea of which of your gal pals could be game to be friends with benefits. But, this isn’t entirely no-strings sex: The string is your friendship. “Be careful not to create a FWB relationship with a girl who has a crush on you,” Burton says. “Even if she agrees to the terms, she may hope that you’ll eventually want a relationship with her.” Also, avoid family friends and co-workers. You don’t want to make family functions awkward or tarnish your reputation at work. “Women who are open about sexuality are likely the best bets for FWB scenarios,” says Good Vibrations sexologist Carol Queen, Ph.D. “They can separate physical from romantic attachment.”

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Tip No. 2: Know the Deal

A match.com study showed that FWB relationships seem to be trending: 47% of polled singles had a FWB in 2012, up from just 20% in 2011. While these types of relationships are common, they usually don’t last. Further results showed that 44% of FWB situations blossom into real relationships, and a Michigan State University study found that 26% of FWBs don’t even stay friends. And check jealousy at the door: San Jose State University researchers reported that 50% of FWB tandems fizzle because one person finds someone else.

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Tip No. 3: Set Guidelines

You both need to be honest about how you’re feeling to avoid drama. “Communication is key, even when you feel awkward,” stresses Burton. “Set rules that work for exclusivity and anything else, but a) agree to them, and b) stick to them.” The same San Jose State study found that 15% of FWB setups sour when feelings develop. “The point is to have fun, and not get attached,” Burton says. “Feelings won’t go away, they’ll get stronger.”

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Tip No. 4: Keep Sex Separate

Don’t let sex ruin your relationship outside of bed. This may mean not always going home together, or being comfortable discussing each other’s dating life. “I’ve had a longtime FWB from my hometown and it works because we limit our hookups,” says Lana, 27. “If we’re with mutual friends and one of us is tired, we’ll never ask the other to stay or meet later. You can’t pressure someone you’re not dating.”

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Tip No. 5: Play it Cool

If you’re both part of the same clique, know how to respond if someone calls out you and your partner in crime. Will you be honest? Will you lie? Either way, be in sync. “I had a friend with benefits in a group of college friends,” says Mike, 28. “We always watched college football together, and one day a guy friend straight-up asked us if we were sleeping together. We looked at him blankly and fumbled our words— dead giveaway.”

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Tip No. 6: Enjoy it

“Since you’re both less invested in making this turn into a permanent arrangement, think of it as a space to be sexual,” Queen says. “As friends, there’s already a comfort level that makes it conceivably easier to ask for fantasy fulfillment.” Ask her to put on that Miley Cyrus costume (if you must); the two of you will be able to laugh about it later—just as friends.

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