We’ve all seen it in action, and we most certainly know the victims: the submissive brother and the compliant co-worker, the passive neighbor and the obedient best friend. Being ‘whipped’ knows no age limit, nor any other boundary of such kind. All a (domineering) woman needs to do is plant her roots and the freedom days are over. But take a look at your own relationship. Would you be able to tell if you were her whipping boy?
Relationship expert and authority on love and sex, Dr. Wendy Walsh offers some clarification and advice on what it means to be whipped.
“There’s this idea that men in traditional gender role situations should be the leader, the one with the stronger voice, the decision-maker,” Walsh says. “As a result, a lot of people think that a healthy relationship is one where there are two independent people when in fact the thing that makes a relationship work well is one that has healthy interdependence where they lean on each other’s shoulder from time to time, when one of them takes the lead from time to time.”
But there is a difference between a guy in a relationship with a strong-willed woman who’s merely holding the reigns for a bit, and one where a guy has no voice and his contributions are being ignored.
If you’re still not sure whether you’re whipped or not, here’s a list of 10 signs. If you’re guilty of five or more, consider yourself in need of a break-up plan. And reevaluate your priorities...