Terrible Pick-Up Line #5: Anything over 10 seconds
Being approached by a stranger who then delivers a monologue makes most people feel uncomfortable. Among other things, it violates social conventions. Most women are going to be turned off if the first thing they know about you is that you can be awkward.
Also, people make judgments based on their experience. Most of the time when you’re approached by a stranger with a long monologue, that stranger seems to have mental or psychological issues, or wants something from you. That’s not a good association for a woman to be thinking of when you want her to be attracted to you.
Terrible Pick-Up Line #6: “My friend thinks…”
My friend says I should come talk to you. Or my friend thinks you’re cute.
Really? This isn’t high school. Be a man. If you think a woman is attractive and want to tell her that, go for it. You don’t need an excuse like your friend told you to do it. That’s a big turnoff.
Ditto with your friend. Even if he is attracted to a woman and is too shy to approach her, it’s not going to help if you try to approach her for him. If you really want to set him up, go talk to the woman normally, and introduce him after a couple minutes.
Terrible Pick-Up Line #7: Nothing
You know what they say: You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. It’s much better to approach a woman right away, even with a simple “Hi” than it is to skulk around trying to think of a perfect pick-up line.
At Love Systems, we teach men to have three default “openers” that they can use anytime. (Chosen from among the hundreds in the Routines Manual). So when you’re not feeling spontaneous, you have something proven to start the conversation with.
It’s much easier to have to decide what women you want to meet – knowing that you know how to start the conversation – than it is trying to think of something clever on the spot.
Nick Savoy is the president of Love Systems and a regular contributor to Men’s Fitness. Follow him on twitter @LS_Savoy