1. Dial down your walking speed.
As you walk up to her (or with her), slow down your pace and slightly exaggerate your shoulder movements. It will make you look relaxed and in control. “She will read ‘confidence’ and confidence is always attractive,” says NYC-based body language expert Tonya Reiman, author of The Power of Body Language: How to Succeed in Every Business and Social Encounter. “Do this while holding eye contact and smiling and you will easily catch her attention.” Just make sure you stand tall and keep the shoulder action subtle. If you saunter too much she’ll either think you’re injured or some creeper approaching in slow-mo.
2. Talk yourself up (tactfully).
If you speak a foreign language, surf, or play guitar, you definitely want to let her know. “Skills or talents are super sexy and highlighting them makes you appear more dynamic to her,” says San Diego-based dating and relationship coach DeAnna Lorraine. The trick is sliding them into conversation naturally, so you don’t come off as awkward—or like you’re bragging. Wait for the right opening, and slip it in nonchalantly. She will notice.