3. Speak with a strong, sure voice.
To be clear, we’re not telling you to yell at her. But you want to convey outgoing confidence, which won’t happen if you talk in a soft, muffled way. To make sure your voice carries, practice talking twice as loud as you think you want to be when you’re out with your buddies. And since nerves can sabotage your efforts and make you sound choppy or high-pitched, take some slow, deep breaths before you head out on your date. “It will relax you and automatically lower the pitch of your voice,” Reiman says. Breathe in through your nose for a count of five and exhale through your mouth for a count of five. You should feel your abs move in and out. Repeat 10 times.
4. Give her 100 percent of your attention.
When you’re with her, try to make her feel like she’s the only person in the room. “Even if dishes are breaking and good looking waitresses are walking by, keep your eyes focused on her,” says Reiman. Pay close attention to what she tells you and try to ask follow-up questions to show you’re interested in what she has to say. She’ll feel appreciated, plus the eye contact will work double duty, making her feel more bonded with you.
5. Tease her.
Your first instinct may be to hold back and watch what you say as you get to know her, but that can backfire and make you appear dull. So don’t be afraid to disagree with her over who should’ve won the Super Bowl or lightheartedly tease her about her taste in music. Back-and-forth banter may actually help you stomp out any first date tension. “You’ll turn the conversation into something playful and flirtatious,” says Lorraine. If she’s laughing and having fun in a conversation, she’ll feel much more relaxed and will more likely be attracted to you.