8. The Gag Rule
She says: “This one guy had his entire tongue in my mouth and used it to make several laps around my own tongue.” – Julia, 28
How to fix it: Too much tongue was the complaint we heard most often from women. Exactly how much is too much is a personal preference, but a good rule of thumb is this: if she can barely breathe, you’re probably shoving your tongue too far in there. Demirjian recommends starting softly and slowly, and following her lead via body language: “See how the woman is responding—either with the way she uses her tongue or by the sounds she is making—to determine whether she is enjoying your tongue in her mouth,” she says. “If she is, its okay to let the tongue become more intense as the passion rises.”
