Take a quick glance at your list of exes. Notice any shady traits among them? If you keep dating the moochers, the attention-seekers, and the heartbreakers, then it’s about time you figured out the difference between a pretty face and, well, pretty perfect…for you. The lady you want on your arm long-term won’t use or abuse, so decide whether to make her a more permanent plus-one by taking a look at these 10 signs she belongs in the girlfriend category. If the woman you’ve got your eye on doesn’t make the grade, drop her in a hot second—and play the field again.
1. She’s your #1 fan. Want to write the next great American novel? Break a dozen world records? Good. If she stands in your way? Next! “All men have something they need to accomplish that makes them feel like they’re on track and that their life is worth living,” says dating coach Lauren Frances, author of Dating, Mating and Manhandling. “Whatever that thing is, you better make sure that the women you're with will support you in your pursuit of it. The worst choice that you can make is a woman that cockblocks you from fulfilling your mission."
2. She only flirts with you. Does she make an effort with your friends? Killer. You should date her. But if she makes too much of an effort—with every guy in a ten mile radius—watch your back. “To be in the girlfriend category, a woman should appear confident, easy-going, and not be the one who flirts with every guy she meets,” says dating expert Julie Spira, author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.