What would your perfect date be? Have you had any really bad ones?
Perfect date? I’m old-fashioned, so dinner, and maybe not a movie, but a Broadway show, because I love Broadway theater. And a date where you can include a lot of talking about shared interests. I’ve had a lot of bad dates. In New York there are a bunch of characters!
If a guy wanted to surprise a girl, what should he do?
Anything sentimental and anything that’s non-technological. I think guys get very set in their ways in terms of technology—texting hello, shooting an email—but there’s nothing like a handwritten note or poem, or flowers that he hand delivers. Things that have personal touches are really nice.
What’s a good gift to give a woman if you’re in a new relationship?
Shoes. Always shoes for every gift. Just kidding! I always say that the earliest gifts should be the ones that let you create memories together. So, as opposed to a pair of shoes, maybe the first time around it could be a shopping trip you take together. Or do something exciting, like go rock climbing if you’re both really active. I think that those sorts of things, especially early on, can help build the relationship.
What is the sweetest thing a guy has ever done for you?
Oh boy, there are so many! But here’s one: I was in a college production, and before the show, he surprised me. There was a huge bouquet of flowers waiting for me, which I wasn’t expecting because he had to work that evening. It’s all about making an effort.
Guys say girls are confusing. What piece of advice could help men understand women better?
Probably just listening. Listen for little clues. Often we say one thing when we mean another. And you can tell when we’re not happy. So really, just listen and be mindful of our attitude when we’re saying things.