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Dating Rules for the Digital Age

Seven tips for using technology to your advantage.

Dating Rule #5: Fox Mulder was right. The truth (or a version of it) is out there

Be aware of what is out there about you online. Most women will Google your name before or after a first date. Assume that she will find whatever is out there. So if your top search results includes your friend’s Tumblr, where he photoshoppped you having sex with a blow-up doll, you might want to tell her the story first before she sees it, doesn’t realize it was a joke, and deletes your number.

(Though you might also want to rethink your taste in friends.)

We’re not quite at the point where people write reviews of their dates on Yelp, but we’re not far off. I was recently on a date where the woman I was seeing showed me an app where she and other women had rated her ex-boyfriend based on looks, personality, ambition, etc. Even if you’re not feeling enough chemistry to want a second date, there’s no harm leaving her with a positive impression of the first one; you never know who she might influence in the future. 

Dating Rule #6: What’s good for the goose is good for the gander

You’re also allowed to look her up. As long as you’re not stealing passwords or going places you shouldn’t, it’s not stalking. It’s totally normal and appropriate. If spending a half hour on her Twitter makes you lose interest or realize that she falls into one of the ten types of women you should never date, cancelling your next date will save you both a lot of time and frustration.

But don’t do this once a relationship is over. Technology can make breakups more difficult and drawn-out. Most experts agree that the best way to handle a breakup includes cutting off contact.  But in an interconnected world, it can be hard to avoid seeing her tagged in a mutual friend's Facebook post. Minimize this as much as possible and never, ever give in the temptation to “find out what she’s up to now.”

If you actually want to get back together with your ex, don’t stalk her. Follow these seven simple rules to get your ex-girlfriend back instead.

Dating Rule #7: Avoid the Black Hole of Suck

We covered earlier how it’s so quick and easy to communicate with people these days. Well, that’s a double-edged sword. There are a lot of people out there who love the validation of receiving flirty messages online or through texts more than they actually love meeting up, going on dates, and so on.

These “validation junkies” are a Black Hole of Suck. In fact, they qualified as a category all by themselves among the list of 7 women we can guarantee will waste your time.  Avoid at all costs! 

Nick Savoy is the President of Love Systems and a frequent contributor to Men’s Fitness. Follow him on Twitter @LS_Savoy.



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