On one hand, sexting too soon, or sexting the wrong way (more on this in a bit) can scare off the new girl you're seeing in a matter of seconds (and get you in a lot of trouble yourself), and on the other, sexting can seriously amplify the sexual satisfaction in your relationship—at least that’s what research from the American Psychological Association implies. Read more about that—and find out why you might want to consider sexting more—here.
So, we asked Emily deAyala, a psychotherapist who specializes in sex therapy, and president and clinical director of Houston Sex Therapy, to help you navigate sexting for the first time whether you're with a new girl, or trying to grow closer and spice things up in a long term relationship. "The brain and body respond positively when we engage in something novel," deAyala says. "Neurochemicals are released when we engage in risky* behavior with someone we have a romantic interest in, which can create a bonding effect in the relationship," she adds. With these tips, general rules, and advice, you can feel comfortable sexting and taking your relationship to the next level.
*Disclaimer: The keyword here is risky. Keep in mind sexting can get you in to trouble so be smart about it if you choose to do it.