Online Dating: The (Mr.) Right Profile
Make the right first (virtual) impression with these tips to the best online dating profile.
TMI alert! Don’t overshare
Miss Information tells us it can be truly mindboggling what red flags people slip into their profiles. “If you’re just getting over a bad break-up, or you’re feeling really cynical about your ability to find a good woman, or you’re in a depressed place in general, keep all of those feelings out of your profile,” she cautions. “Some people conflate melancholy and depth. Don’t be one of these people. Any hint of sad trombone will send quality dates running.”
Choose photos strategically
Give a critical eye to the potential profile shots, and think about the message they’re sending. These pix dictate how potential dates view you, so be proactive and decide what image you want to project. “If you’re looking for a solid, long-term relationship-type, avoid pictures of yourself drinking excessively or making kissy faces at the camera,” Robinson says. “If you’re just looking for a fling, skip the photos from the church bake-off and beef it up appropriately.” Extra points for artsy/humorous/evocative shots. Subtract major points for fuzzy/out of focus/mug shot/creepy head chopped in half, and even more for those that feature dirty laundry in the background, or ex-girlfriends not so cleverly cropped out of the frame.
Ask for help
Even taking all the aforementioned steps, Robinson notes that capturing the cute, pithy individual you are can be a daunting prospect. “If you aren’t sure how your profile looks/reads, ask a friend to proof it,” she suggests. “They can catch any potentially off-putting, Charlie-Brown-sulking statements, as well as good-naturedly make fun of you for any weird phrasing or half-truths. A good friend will help you punch up your profile, give you an outside perspective, and probably be more truthful than you’d actually want them to be—which can be a good thing.”
Next Week: What to look for in her profile, and sending the first message.