So, what kind of guy are you interested in?
It’s funny because I think we all go through stages. Sometimes l like a mysterious guy, and sometimes I like a guy who talks. [Laughs]. There’s something about mystery and not going all out. There ought to be a little bit of curiosity and wanting to find out more. I think that’s always alluring. Ultimately, you do want to share things and you do obviously want to trust and be able to open up, but there’s a certain charm to the beginning of a relationship, specifically where there’s that curiosity and the whole journey of getting to know someone, and I think that mystery is very alluring because of that. Leave a little to the imagination.
How would you advise the not-so-mysterious guy?
It’s more about the listening. It’s not so much just stopping yourself from blabbing everything out right away; just listen to the woman. Listen to what she has to say, and really pay attention. Really look into her and allow her to see that you’re listening and that you’re curious about her as well, and that there’s something more to you. For me there’s a certain strength in silence and I think a lot of times that men who are more quiet are more intriguing.
Interesting. Now, you titled your new single “Freak Like Me,” so you know I have to ask this. What’s the best way for a guy to suggest trying something new with his girl in the bedroom?
Just be honest. I think honesty is usually the best policy. Don’t beat around the bush too much. Give it a little bit of time and then just be honest. Put it in a gentlemanly way, but don’t be a total prude about it. Just try to make it as romantic as you can make it can sound. I mean, if you’re just trying to score on the first date then you might get slapped—or maybe not, maybe she’s into the same thing. [Laughs].
So if we’re talking specifically about an established, loving, trusting couple…
I’ve found that the best way nowadays is through texting. Chances are that your girl’s going to have her phone on so just kind of text her exactly how you’re feeling. You know what? Chances are she’s thinking the same thing you are. Don’t be too scared to just bring it up. Just be like, “Wouldn’t this be fun, babe?” Most women wish that they could express that side of themselves.