The Dos and Don’ts of Online Dating
We asked real women to weigh in on the world of cyber courtship, so you can avoid these common—and not-so-common—dating mistakes.
DUMPED AND IN DENIAL
The scenario: “I went on a few dates with a guy I met online, and I eventually decided we weren’t compatible, so I was honest with him. He refused to accept it and continued to message me listing all the reasons why we’d be great together.” — Ashley, 30
The problem...and the solution: No matter how strongly you feel about your potential with a woman you meet online, accept the break-up gracefully. There’s obviously a reason she didn’t think it would work out, so why keep trying to pursue someone who is clearly not interested in you? Instead, channel your energy into meeting someone else.
MISSING IN ACTION
The scenario: “One time I was messaging back and forth with a guy for two weeks and having a great conversation, but he was taking too long to ask me out, so I stopped talking to him.” — Kelly, 32
The problem...and the solution: If you’re into her, ask her out! What are you waiting for? And if you’re not, why are you still talking to her? Know that saying, “shit or get off the pot?” It applies here. A general rule: once you’ve sent four messages back and forth, someone should ask someone out — preferably the man. If not, that means it’s time to move on.