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We Asked 20 Women: What are the most annoying things a guy can text?

You might not realize it, but if you're sending her any of these messages, odds are good you're not going to get the response you're hoping for.

Some might argue the emergence of text messaging was the greatest thing to happen to relationships. You blast out a quick note to say you're on your way to dinner, send a late-night (possibly drunken) love confession that won't wake her at 3a.m., and keep a conversation going throughout the day that makes you both feel connected. But along the way, we've adopted some less-than-endearing habits.

It was OK for your text etiquette to be horrendous when you had to punch a key four times to get a single letter. But now, with a full keyboard at your fingertips, there's no excuse for radio silence, one-word answers, and crappy communication—period. Read on for the messages women absolutely hate to receive, at every stage of a relationship.

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“‘Send me nudes.’ Let us do that on our own.” - Chrissie S. 

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“One-word answers.” - Nickole R.

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“‘’Sup.’ ‘What u up to.’ ‘Hey.’ Hello! Be a normal human and ask a [real] question.” - Rose W. 

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“‘Send nudes.’ Or, if he uses ‘your’ when it should be ‘you’re’, 'to' when it should be 'too,' or any of the wrong ‘their,’ ‘they’re,’ and ‘there.’” - Nicole G. 

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“My least favorite is months after you’ve ended things, and they pop back up with a ‘Just thinking about you and wondering how you’re doing,’ or ‘I wanted to apologize for how things ended.’ Both of these things are selfish and a way for you to feel better about yourself. I've had dudes I dated show up YEARS later and it's just like, don't you have better things to do than reopen closed doors?!” - Olivia F. 

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“‘Where r u.’ At 2a.m. If we're not dating and we're just getting to know each other, don't reach out in the middle of the night for a booty call.” - Erica S.

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“The most annoying thing is when they answer with one word and don’t ask any questions back—digital equivalent of talking to a wall.” - Laura P.

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“‘K.’ This is the fastest way to get a girl to either shutdown or blow up on you.” - Arianna D. 

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“‘Relax.’” - Quinn G.

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“‘LOL’ at the end of every text.” - Brianne R.

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“‘Fine.’ I don’t know why but nothing sounds like you care less than this word.” - Liana M. 

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“When he responds: ‘I don’t care.’ to everything—what to eat, where to go, what to do. Well, guess what? That makes me not care.” - Rose L. 

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“Silence. Not saying a single thing back to a text is the MOST annoying thing a guy can do.” - Rebecca E. 

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“An unsolicited d*ck pic.” - Corie D. 

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“An excuse—canceling dinner or date plans because something came up, blah, blah, blah. And bad enough you're ditching me; you can't even call!?” - Lindsay M. 

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“I can’t stand when guys ask for naked pics when we’re not in a relationship.” - Heather J.

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“When they’re super vague. Like, ‘Yeah, we should hang out sometime.’ Ummm, hello?! Give me a date and time, please.” - Carla E. 

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"If there's one pause in the conversation and he goes, 'soooo....'. Am I not allowed to put my phone down for two minutes?!" - Raquel B.

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“When a guy is being immature, insecure, and sends 15 text messages in what could have fit in 1. Prime example: 

What’s up?
Going to the bar tonight if you ever want to answer your phone and join.
You coming?


Grow up. If I was busy and didn't have my phone on me, then saw this, I definitely wouldn't want to hang out." - Alicia N.

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“‘Pics.’ Oh, so you want nudes and I’m supposed to deduce that from your one-word caveman request. No, sir. You get none.” - Brigid A.

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