The pressure to click with another can lead to the mistake of looking backward instead of forward.

“After a broken engagement, I found a quick fix in my old college girlfriend,” shares Josh, 29. “Soon we were fighting as we had years ago, and our issues were similar to those I’d had with my fiancée. I needed time alone to evaluate the qualities I want in future partners.”

Meeting new people and getting involved in new activities will lead to greater possibilities not just in love but also in self-discovery. “Start dating once you have a fresh sense of reality, to avoid carrying baggage into something new,” Kelman says.

Rosenberg adds, “There’s absolutely no reason that the next person you start dating can’t be the love of your life.”

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