5. Rough Stuff, Part 1
You know your girl has read Fifty Shades of Grey and gotten a little flushed with excitement, so Kerner suggests you take it one step further and introduce some light BDSM into the bedroom. If you’re not sure getting a little rough is really her (or your) thing, baby steps are fine. According to Kerner, it can be as simple as renting porn with similar themes and watching it together, or if you’re into it, you can pick up some basic gear, like restraints, a riding crop, or nipple clamps. Come up with a few safe words, and try switching up the dominant role so you can play both sides of the game.
6. The Bent Spoon
Levine suggests this bedroom move, which begins as a sweet and cozy opener that heats up in an unexpected way. “Start off your sex session in the spooning position, with you behind her as the big spoon and both of you on your sides,” she says. “Then, have her rotate to a 90-degree angle, so your bodies are perpendicular and she’s on her back with one leg in between yours and one over your upper thigh.” This will give you more space for movement, not to mention the freedom to touch her in all the right spots. (Bonus: You’ll be able to watch her face react as you do.)