Talking dirty is a skill that all men should master; it’s a great way to turn her on or spice things up in the bedroom. But it’s not easy, and there’s no right or wrong way to do it because every relationship is different and every woman likes different things. There’s a fine line between dirty talk and disgusting talk, and it’s hard to find a balance. To help you find the right words to say, we spoke with a handful of dirty-talking ladies about erotic conversation and found that there are some dos and don’ts that most women can agree on.
1. Don’t use derogatory words. "I don’t like being called a slut. Don’t refer to my lady parts as “cunt.” Words like that are jarring. Even if you don’t mean it as an insult, we hear words like those and automatically feel a negative surge because those words are usually used negatively. It takes us out of the moment completely. Total buzz kill and sometimes offensive." –Janet, 29
2. Do tell me I’m sexy. "I love when in the middle of sex, a man just looks my body up and down and tells me I’m sexy. It strokes my ego, makes my feel all tingly, and immediately makes me want to do something to make him feel the same way." –Carolyn, 30