Whether you're in a long-term, short-term, or no relationship at all, you clicked on this article because you're curious about ways to spice up your sex life. If you've ever wondered if your girl has faked an orgasm, we're going to clue you in on something: Odds are very high she has. But don't feel bad. “Only about 30 percent of women regularly orgasm with their partners,” says relationship expert and owner of Love Honey Tracey Cox. But the easiest (and fastest) way to make her climax is by using a vibrator.
Here’s why: “Since the clitoris has the most nerve endings, it is the most sensitive spot and many women need sustained clitoral stimulation for an orgasm,” says Claire Cavanah, co-founder of Babeland and co-author of Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex and Sex Toys 101. Most, if not all, vibrators—especially the ones we rounded up here—are specifically designed to pleasure her in a way that proves to be orgasmic.
And if you think you’re being “replaced,” think again. Incorporating toys encourages couples to communicate during those deep moments of intimate (and possibly even awkward) penetration. This allows you to fully understand your partner’s sexual needs, thus increasing intimacy and even sexual performance. “Sex is good for us, both physically and mentally," Cox adds. "It decreases stress, boosts the immune system, and gives us a sense of wellbeing.“
So, introduce one (or more!) of these 10 sex toys into your sex life.
The Jimmyjane Form 2 lets you stay in complete control while you arouse her. This toy is powered by dual motors that fill both "ear" tips—meant to surround her clitoris—making it virtually twice as strong as any other vibrator on the market. It also includes four vibration modes, is waterproof, and is impossible to "overcharge."
The epitome of a double whammy, the We-Vibe 4 Plus can be worn during sex so you and your lady can enjoy stimulation from the vibrator and penetration from, well, your penis. Its U-shaped design is meant to stimulate both her clitoris and g-spot, and the 10 vibration modes can be altered from each end because of its dual motors. Just wait; things get better. You can control the We-Vibe 4 Plus from your cell phone by downloading the free app so you can still get intimate even with thousands of miles separating the two of you. This vibrator is also waterproof and has the potential to make "simultaneous orgasms possible," according to Cox.
You never know what you'll like (love) in bed until you take the plunge, which is exactly why you should surprise your lady with this pleasure box. Get tied up and carried away (though not too carried away.) "Taking away" one or more of her senses will amplify the sexual tension and make your rendezvous more exciting. This bondage kit includes an adjustable sash restraint, feather tickler, and matching satin mask. Check out this guide on how to initiate kinky sex to get the ball rolling.
For the couple that's on a budget, Cox suggests going for bullet vibrators. The Supersex Bullet Vibrator may not have up to 10 speeds, but at an appealing price of $19.99 and a powerful motor, it'll get the job done. You can set this toy to automatically start vibrating when it comes into contact with her clitoris, or switch it to "continuous mode" to keep the vibrations consistently pulsing. It's also small, waterproof, and has a soft surface which feels great to the touch and is easier to clean.
Consider the USB Rechargeable G-Spot Vibrator the pocketknife of vibrators. This particular vibrator from Love Honey is easy to use, flexible, and arched for targeted G-spot stimulation; plus the curved tip is perfect for arousing her clitoris. Tell her to lie back and relax. This baby's got two speeds and five vibration patterns so you can find the combination that's right for her and give her a mind-blowing, body-electrifying orgasm she won't soon forget.
Dildos "create the sense of a threesome without the complications of it," Cox says. And glass dildos? Well, they just elevate the novelty of it all. These toys are made from borosilicate glass, which is more resistant to temperature than regular glass (read: they're very strong). The pink dildo is slightly curved, features bulbed ends for added stimulation, and nodules along the shaft for her pleasure. The clear dildo has a more defined "s-shaped" curve to target and hit her G-spot, features tapered bulbed ends, and ribbing along the end of the shaft to intensify her arousal.
For any folks living that long distance relationship life, let us introduce you to the BlueMotion line of vibrators. This is the gift that keeps on giving (and giving...). Your lady holds on to the vibrator and you keep a hand on the controls via your cell phone. Download the free app, which works with Bluetooth or WiFi so you can please her even if you're in different time zones, and start playing with the high-tech controls. Simply turn your phone from vertical to horizontal in the "wave option," and you can increase the strength of her vibrator's vibrations. The app has a "touch control" feature where you can create your own vibration patterns, then save them for future use, an Oh-Dometer to track her orgasms (because why not?), and the ability to record audio. This is a bonafide game changer when it comes to keeping intimacy alive in long distance relationships.
If you've ever seen The Ugly Truth (where Gerard Butler gifts Katherine Heigl with vibrating panties), you'll be excited to try these out with your girl. It's super discrete and incredibly naughty. Your lady simply tucks this slim vibrator into the pocket of its custom black lace thong (pictured above) before heading out the door while you hold on to the remote. You don't even have to be tied at the hip; the remote controls the vibrator up to 20 feet away. There are five vibration speed settings, and you don’t have to worry about getting caught; the vibrations and rhythms are whisper quiet. Get this: You can even switch the vibrator to "club mode" if you're going out. There's a mic built into the remote control, which will match the beat of the music (or the sound of your voice) to the vibration pulses. And for $50 more, you can buy the Bluemotion Bluetooth version of the wearable panty so you can please your woman no matter the distance.
Slip this silky soft toy between you and your partner during sex, or use it on her during foreplay—either way you'll be pleased. The Lily 2 has eight vibration levels, is 100% waterproof so you can take it in the shower, and it's quieter than most toys. What really sets it apart is it comes in a variety of scent combinations—like Bordeaux and Chocolate and Lavender and Honey—based on common aphrodisiacs.
“A vibrating ring draws and holds blood flow to the penis, which increases sensitivity,” says Cox, so don’t go for a flimsy rubber one. Try Pino instead. The ring comes in a luxury gift set that includes a pair of silver cufflinks and an embossed money clip. Why? The company says, “to satisfy those wanting more out of their intimate investments.” You can wear wear the ring with the motor on top of your shaft during missionary, or position it with the motor below the base of your shaft (behind the testicles) during doggy style. This product is proven to please both parties.