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5 Things You Should Never Say to a Woman in Bed

If you care about keeping your lady happy, steer clear of these touchy topics during sex.

3. “I have to be out of here by 4:00.”
“Making allusions to the idea that you don’t have much time to work with is a major mood-killer,” says Brame. “If you absolutely must talk about somewhere that you need to be, or the fact that you’re in a rush, at least wait until afterward!”
Also avoid: “I need to wake up super early tomorrow.”

4. “I wish you had more ass to grab!”
Here’s a newsflash: Women are often extremely insecure, especially when they’re naked and most vulnerable. “Pointing out things about other women’s bodies that you like, particularly ones that highlight what your partner doesn’t have, is a major no,” says Levine. Brame agrees, adding, “Anything that’s going to make a woman self-conscious is a female-libido kill. She’ll shut down immediately.”
Also avoid: “What’s that weird red bump on your back?”

5. “Did you come yet?”
Contrary to popular belief, “an orgasm does not define good or bad sex,” says sexologist and sexuality educator Megan Andelloux.  “So please stop asking if she came or saying that you want to see her come. That puts way too much pressure on her.” Andelloux adds that if she did climax, she can choose to say something or not, but it’s important to remember that for a woman, having an orgasm does not equal having a good time in bed. “It can be lovely...but it should not be the goal.”
Also avoid: “Are you going to come soon?”



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