The Five: In the Sack
We asked 8,745 women what you need to know to drive them wild in bed. Read, memorize -- then practice, practice, practice.
1) "Screw cuddling -- let's fuck." The majority of women polled listed the top characteristic of being a good lover as "listening to verbal and nonverbal cues," followed by "not stopping until I have an orgasm" and "asking me what I want." (A mere 6% considered snuggling a top priority.)
Still not picking up the smoke signals? A good rule to always keep in mind is that if she likes what you're doing, do not switch it up. "This is one of the biggest mistakes men make," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. "If light little circles to the right are making her moan, keep doing that. Listen with your body, not your ears. If she wants it harder, she'll lean into you; lighter, she'll pull away."
2) Too pooped to pop? One of the top reasons women most often list for not feeling frisky is plain ol' lack of sleep. The National Sleep Foundation estimates that most Americans get a full hour less than they need of sleep each night. Meaning, you don't need to spend money on kinky toys or furry handcuffs to spice up your sex life. Just let her sleep in a little longer in the morning and you'll be much more likely to wind up with some afternoon delight.
3) Sixty percent of women list their feelings about their body as the main reason their sex life is suffering. "Women are bombarded daily with messages that their bodies are not good enough, and it can take a toll on their sexual self-esteem," says Martha Kempner, M.A., of the Sexuality Information and Education Council. To boost her mood-and how often you score-Kempner says to "let her know how beautiful she is as often as possible."
4) Forty-two percent of women say guys don't spend enough time trying to excite them prior to sex. "Men mistakenly think the best orgasm is during intercourse, when the fact is, most women don't care when they have them, as long as they do have them," says Lisa Douglass, Ph.D., co-author of The Sex You Want: A Lover's Guide to Women's Sexual Pleasure.
5) Four out of 10 men don't include the G-spot when stimulating their ladies. "After stimulating her clitoris for a while, try using both hands, one pulsating pressure on her G-spot," Kerner recommends. Where should you look, exactly? "About two inches in on the front wall," he says. Don't worry if you don't find it right away. She won't mind a little scouting.