You’re pretty good in bed—if you do say so yourself—so why doesn’t your girlfriend orgasm every time the two of you jump between the sheets for a quickie? Well, her orgasm doesn’t rely on just one part of her anatomy, that’s why. Her orgasm is a full body experience, which means you need to make love to her entire body, says sex therapist Jane Greer.
Need proof? This 2014 study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that lesbians are significantly more likely to experience orgasm with partners. The researchers hypothesized this difference exists because women are more comfortable and familiar with female bodies, and are thus better able to induce orgasm in female partners. In other words—if you know her body as well as she does, she’ll have no problem reaching the big ‘O’ with you.
Challenge accepted: Here’s what you need to do.