“When you look at arousal on a physiological level, the biggest sex organ in the body is the mind,” says MF sex advisor Ian Kerner. The brain controls the body’s production of the feel-good hormone dopamine. The more you stimulate her mentally, the more dopamine her body produces, lowering her inhibitions and sending her sex drive soaring.
The way you touch a woman tells her whether you’re a gentle lover or a rough one, says Taormino. Remember, her body is covered with nerve receptors, so the opportunity to trigger her pleasure points is endless. Take your time here; it’ll be worth it.
Kerner calls it the “powerhouse” of the female orgasm, thanks to its vast reserve of nerve endings. Use this power source wisely. Too much too soon, and it could be a quick night.
“Women get really turned on by a guy’s scent,” says Kerner, Ph.D. Skip the cheap cologne, and attract her with your natural scent. (Shower first if you just hit the gym!)
Whether slow and sensual, or rough and passionate, a good kiss is golden, according to Tristan Taormino, author of the Expert Guide to Female Orgasms. You’ll know when you’ve got it right by the way she groans, moans, or breathes.
Tension builds up around the toes and sole of the foot. Help her unwind with a massage. “Some women love having their feet worshiped,” says Taormino.