Ask any woman how she feels about receiving oral and she’ll probably tell you it feels good—but you should never settle for “good” when you could make her feel amazing. Would you go to a football game and only stay until half time? Would you fill up a pint of beer only mid-way? Of course not. So the same rule applies to going down on a woman: never half-ass it. Now truth be told, every chick has a different set of preferences, but if you stick to our step-by-step guide, you’ll likely give her the best oral of her life. Read on to find out how.
Step 1. The Comfort Zone
The first thing to know about going down on your lady is that if she’s not relaxed, she’s not going to enjoy it. “One of the sexiest things a guy has ever said to me was ‘get comfortable,’” says Los Angeles-based sex expert and radio host Lora Somoza. “The woman can get really self-conscious over how long it’s going to take them to orgasm, and if she feels like she’s with some guy that isn’t in a rush, that’s incredibly sexy.”
Step 2. Perfect Position
Your partner probably knows the position that’s most comfortable for her to be in, but if she’s open to suggestions, put a pillow under her butt to lift her pelvis up, which will give you great leverage—and make her feel fantastic. “Then, when she’s lying on her back, keep her knees wide,” says Somoza. “The wider she is, the more of an opening you have to work with. That helps with the sensation.” Somoza also stresses that the guy be comfortable too. “The guy may want to kneel on the bed with a pillow under his knees too, so he can just go to town.”