For you, receiving oral sex is dynamite. Hands down one of the most enjoyable, relaxing experiences you can have. But for your girl? Not always the case. It takes her longer to get comfortable (let's face it, it's not the most flattering position), and revved up. You can't expect 10 minutes of oral sex—especially a half-assed attempt—to rock her world.
Obviously every girl has a different set of preferences, but if you stick to our step-by-step guide, and avoid the oral sex misconceptions women hate, you’ll likely give her the best oral of her life. Read on to find out how.
Step 1. The Comfort Zone
The first thing to know about going down on your lady is that if she’s not relaxed, she’s not going to enjoy it. “One of the sexiest things a guy has ever said to me was ‘get comfortable,’” says Los Angeles-based sex expert and radio host Lora Somoza. “The woman can get really self-conscious over how long it’s going to take them to orgasm, and if she feels like she’s with some guy that isn’t in a rush, that’s incredibly sexy.”
Step 2. Perfect Position
Your partner probably knows the position that’s most comfortable for her to be in, but if she’s open to suggestions, put a pillow under her butt to lift her pelvis up, which will give you great leverage—and make her feel fantastic. “Then, when she’s lying on her back, keep her knees wide,” says Somoza. “The wider she is, the more of an opening you have to work with. That helps with the sensation.” Somoza also stresses that the guy be comfortable too. “The guy may want to kneel on the bed with a pillow under his knees too, so he can just go to town.”