Do men really think about sex every seven seconds?
No. In fact, men don’t think about sex nearly as much as they think they do, according to a Duke University study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.
In the study, 202 participants (101 men and 101 women) were asked to fill out daily surveys about their sexual health, including interest in sex and sexual activity. When asked to recall their sexual activity at the one-month mark, both men and women overestimated how frequently they thought about sex (as well as their sexual activity)— but men were more likely to overestimate than women.
Researchers suggest that this difference can be explained by gender stereotypes. In other words, a guy might think that he must be more interested in sex simply because men are assumed to be more interested in sex, and therefore over-report his interest.
Needless to say, there are a lot of problems with gender- and sex-based stereotypes, especially if we’re subconsciously trying to conform to them. But one of the biggest problems, according to psychologist and relationship expert Tracy Thomas, Ph.D., is how they can affect your sex life. “While some myths and stereotypes surrounding sex have truth to them, nothing can apply to everyone,” Thomas says. “If you limit yourself to what you think you know is true, you are literally limiting infinite possibilities.”
Here are three more sex myths that are doing your sex life no favors.