Feeling a little bored in the bedroom lately? We don’t blame you! Humans are creatures of habit, and we fall into routines far too easily, even when it comes to sex. If you’re having a hard time tapping into your creative side, get ready for some serious inspiration. Here are 10 moves guaranteed to shake things up in the bedroom.
1. Upgrade your sex toy
There are a handful of new sex toys on the market that sync up with apps and allow you to control them remotely from your phone. Check out the We-Vibe 4 Plus or the JeJoue Dua. Have her go into another room and insert the toy, then tease her from afar with your phone. Not knowing when you’re going to turn on the toy or what you’re going to do with it will drive her wild.
2. Edge yourself
Most men rush their way through masturbation, but it can be so much more fun if you take the time to enjoy yourself. Get to the edge of orgasm, then stop and give yourself a minute to cool down. Start up again, then stop when you get close. Repeat as many times as you can stand. An added bonus—this move helps you build up your endurance so you last longer in the sack.
3. Take turns being the center of attention
Tell your lady that you’re going to spend an evening focused entirely on her. Her only task is to lay back and receive all the pleasure you’re going to give her, with no expectation of reciprocation. The next night, it’s all about you. Getting to be selfish in the bedroom is such a treat.
4. Keep your clothes on
Conjure up your teenage self and spend some time making out with your clothes on. Lay between her legs and rock your pelvis back and forth. There’s something so carnal about grinding against each other when there are clothes in the way. Plus a lot of women go crazy for the clitoral stimulation they get through jeans or underwear.
5. Play with her senses
You’ve probably blindfolded your lady or had her blindfold you, so you know that cutting off one of your senses can greatly increase your other senses. You can take your sensory play up a notch by blindfolding her and putting a pair of headphones over her ears (with some sexy music playing, of course). She won’t be able to see or hear what you’re doing, which will make every little kiss and touch feel electrifying.
6. Stimulate her in a new way
You’ve probably stimulated her clitoris with your fingers and your tongue, but have you ever done it with your penis? When you’re having sex, pull out. Using your hand as a guide, rub the head of your penis over her clitoris. This smoking hot trick gives you a chance to cool down if you’re getting too close too fast, and gives her the clitoral stimulation she needs to reach orgasm. It’s a win-win!
7. Sext while you’re both at home
Ok, so this one wouldn't really happen "in bed," but it's a great new way to initiate sex and get to the bed in the first place. Wait until you’re both at home, but in different rooms of the house. Send her naughty messages telling her what you’re going to do to her later. Give her instructions for when to come find you, or tease her by telling her to stay put and wait for you.
8. Get wet
Everyone knows lube exists, but many people have never used it. You’ll be amazed at what a difference just a few drops can make. Try it during intercourse, while you’re masturbating, or even during a sensual full-body massage. Bonus: using it on her clitoris can make it easier for her to orgasm. Check out Pjur Bodyglide Original.
9. Give her a clitoral massage
A lot of women feel self-conscious about taking “too long” to orgasm. Tell your partner that you’ve got all the time in the world for her tonight. Have her lie on her back with her legs open. Sit beside her, and stroke diagonally across her clitoris with one of your fingers. Use slow, steady, consistent movement. Go for at least 20 minutes (yep, that's typically how long it takes for a woman to climax), or however long she needs to climax.
10. Masturbate in front of each other
Shake up your usual routine by masturbating in front of each other instead of having intercourse. Watching her touch herself is extremely sexy, and you might learn a thing or two about what she likes (how many fingers does she use? How fast does she go? What types of strokes does she like?). Indulge in the "naughty" feeling of doing something so private with her right there.